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Learn to eat grass
Below is a real question and my answer to it. This happened to me in a country that I was visiting at the time to speak about the Seerah (life/way) of Rasoolullahﷺ. A very concerned young woman asked me this question. I answered her. After considering my response, she refused the proposal and lived to…
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Do you want to remain happily married?
Thank your spouse every day. Several times a day. Because there’s no thanking Allah without thanking the people. So, thank them for all the so-called small things. You will know the value of those small things when they are not there.
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Your marriage is in your own hands
Today we live in a world where selfishness is not a sin anymore. However, changing your mind about an evil does not make it good. You will get sick even if you fall in love with the virus. People wanting to get married must learn to think about the other and to consciously give him…
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Marriage means to adjust
It is a very good idea to have some frank sharing of thoughts on what is important to you. When this is happening, simply listen. Don’t justify, agree, disagree, or argue. Just listen respectfully and then decide what you love, what you can live with, what you can change in yourself and what you need…
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Can you take your marriage off the rocks?
I often ask couples, ‘How many times a day do you thank your wife/husband? How many times a day do you hug or kiss them? How many times a day do you tell them that you love them?’ It is amazing how much we take appreciation for granted. For most people not criticizing is equal…
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Marriage – the living of it
Marry someone you believe is worthy of emulation; someone you can look up to and learn to forgive them. The formula of an unhappy marriage is to marry someone who you believe you can change. That is a sure recipe for disaster. When you marry someone who you think needs to be changed you are…
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Marriage – the making of it
Falling is never a good thing. Love as we know it (from our romantic notions) is simply another word for physical attraction. It lasts usually for 2 weeks. Since you want your marriage to last a bit longer than that, it is a good idea to focus on respect which will grow into love. Not…
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Dealing with grief
We remember that life is a struggle and those who are successful are those who overcome the struggle they face. Who do you respect more? Someone who lives a charmed life with every happiness and so was never depressed or suicidal. Or someone who faced hardship, loss, bereavement, fell into deep depression, became suicidal, on…
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Active Listening – How to do it
Active listening can and should be used in every significant communication, especially in potentially conflictful, stressful, controversial, adversarial, and sensitive situations. These may include but are not restricted to, management-union negotiations, conflict resolution, arbitration, reconciliation, communication between spouses, parents and children, manager-subordinate, especially while giving critical feedback, physician-patient, especially when giving news about critical, even…
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Talaq, Talaq, Talaq! What was that?
The controversy about triple Talaq in India proves that inaction can also produce results, albeit not the ones you may like to see. The basic principle in Islamic jurisprudence is to go to the Book of Allahﷻ – the Qur’an and the Sunnah (teachings) of Muhammadﷺ the prophet of Islam in case of any question…