When the journey is the destination


When social change is protracted and long it produces a situation that has no closure. There is apparently no end to it. No classic ‘arrived state’. No final shining land of perpetual sunshine, timely rain, green fields or whatever our imagination tells us is waiting for us. In such a situation, the journey itself acquires enhanced, even supreme significance. Where there is a clear destination, one can afford to ignore the hardships of the journey, remain focused on the destination and everything else will pale into insignificance. But where, as is our situation today, there is apparently no end in sight, every minute detail of the journey is noticed, has an effect and produces some result, good or bad in our lives.
Today we have created a society which is so inward looking, so selfish – short term, instant gratification – and so commercially oriented that we seem to have lost all perspective about our lives. We don’t think of the future, be it in terms of the environment, or the socio-politics we have created for ourselves, or even in terms of our own personal development. We only think of what we can do to make money. No matter what the method. No matter what the activity. No matter what else we have to sacrifice in order to do that. No matter what happens to others in the process.
One of the major illnesses of our times which is in epidemic proportions is the unwillingness to exercise the mind to listen to those who don’t think like us and to engage with them in a spirit of enquiry with rational, logical and factual arguments. We are fast seeing a majority of people whose answer to anything that differs from their pet theories is either to close their ears or to try to drown the arguments in the cacophony of their own raucous, strident bleating accusing the ‘other’ of everything from disloyalty, lack of patriotism to sacrilege. As if in fact simply shouting will make the inner discomfort that instigated it in the first place, go away. What they fail to realize is, that the discomfort is a sign that their hearts are still alive.
And that if they shout long and loudly enough, then over time, their hearts will die. Then there will be no discomfort because the dead feel no pain.
Thabo Mbeki, the scholarly former President of South Africa said, “One day I pray that I will find time to write or otherwise address the issue of the calamitous retreat from the habit of thinking in our country, the atrophy of meaningful critical intellectual engagement, communication, and the occupation of the realm of ideas largely by dearth of originality, superstition, opinionated prejudice, stereotypes and a herd mentality.” President of South Africa, Thabo Mbeki, 1stJanuary, 2000
I wish I could say that this is a habit peculiar to South Africans. It isn’t. ‘Calamitous retreat from the habit of thinking’ is a universal problem today. And it is a very serious problem and all the more so because nobody seems to want to even recognize it, let alone doing something about it.
The visual media, corporate controlled – network television has played a very major and powerful role in this process of creating closed minds constantly focused towards pleasurable gratification and with the attention span of a monkey. We have an entire generation today, less than 5% of whom read serious books, less than 15% of whom read newspapers (scanning headlines is not reading) and almost all of whom avidly watch television. The spin doctors and mind benders of TV realised this very early and built huge empires based on lies. So today, we eat what the tube tells us, we dress the way the tube tells us, we go for holidays to places which the tube tells us are good. We watch serials and see ourselves in the lives of the actors. If someone were to hook up diagnostic machines to us as we watched our favourite serials, we would have hard evidence of how these fantasies actually affect us physiologically.
Do you see the power of the carefully crafted image and the attention span of monkeys that we have been indoctrinated with? It is not for nothing that the price tag for a 30 second spot on Fox TV is in excess of $700,000. Why? Because you are the people who make it Prime Time – glazed eyes, dropped jaws, slouched bodies with the remote control to your thoughts and emotions in the hands of the producers, to switch them on or off at will.
The tube today can make or break presidents, popes, governments and companies. The tube decides who we will consider good and who we will call evil. Both without a shred of independent evidence. The tube tells us how to vote, who to elect and who to leave out in the cold. And we do it. The tube tells us what to eat and what to drink. And we do it. The tube tells us what to buy. The tube tells us what to sell. The tube tells us what to believe and what to deny, because it is not on TV.  The tube is illusion. We are real. But we have learnt to make the illusion real by living it in our lives. Passions acted out by others on the screen while we slouch in our chairs and eat popcorn (or time-pass phalli) believing that it will never touch us. We are told that we are free to choose how we live. We forget that the choice is never free.
We have been conditioned to suspend our thought, to suspend our judgment and to believe unquestioningly what we are shown. Strangely we do this though we know all about film producing, photographic morphing, splicing and all the techniques whereby any fantasy can be made to seem real on the little screen in front of us.
In order to succeed in reaching this stage, the spin doctors made some changes in our minds. They first convinced us that happiness lies in accumulating possessions. And if we don’t have the money to buy things, no problem, as there are always credit cards.
But that to possess things is the most important reason we live. And then they did another change. They told us that it was not only about what you had, it was also about what the next person had. If you had something that was as good as, or God forbid, older, less ‘stylish’ (they also told us what to call stylish), less shiny or less ‘smart’ than what the Jones, Biharis or Khans have then you are a failure.
So it is important not only to have things, but to have things that others can envy, throw out what they have and go out and acquire what you will then have to envy. So envy became the major virtue.
You have to be someone who others would always envy. Not because of who you were but because of what you had. And to tell you the truth, they made these two things one. “You are what you have”, they said. “Your possessions define you”, they said. And we believed them. Your car, pants, underwear, handbag, watch, shoes, neighbourhood, drink and food, all define you. They are all statements of what your worth as a human being is. How else do you explain a handbag that costs $ 125,000?
Or more correctly, how do you explain the mentally retarded idiots who buy them? But this is precisely what drives our commercial society and we have agreed to benchmark our worth in this way. Mission successfully accomplished. The mindset has been changed to worship the God of Commerce. The world is not godless as some people believe. Our God is Money. The major change that happened in the modern world is that we changed from being theocracies to being commerce driven. That is why atheism is the religion of Europe today and is fashionable among many who are influenced by Western education.
We are a society that pays its teachers the least and its entertainers the most. We are a society in which someone who dances half naked on the stage or screen or hits a ball across a net or into a goal or drives a fast car on a track makes more in one hour than a teacher who shapes the minds of a generation can make in a lifetime. Yet we wonder why we find ourselves increasingly in a society that is morally bankrupt, socially irresponsible and intellectually dead. I don’t mean that nobody is good or wise. I’m talking about the majority of people today. As they say, ‘One swallow doesn’t make the spring.’ The majority defines a society. True bankruptcy is a full belly and an empty soul. But what do you say for a society which has an empty belly and an empty soul. The writers of proverbs didn’t foresee that, I believe.
Just ask yourself about the modern TV generation – What do they read? What conversation do they have except discussing the icons of today? What do they produce of intellectual or moral value? There was a time when ordinary people in Delhi and Lucknow wrote and recited poetry, where the hallmark of scholarship was your ability to express yourself in prose or poetry. There was a time when the schoolchildren in England read Tennyson, Macaulay and Homer. So did we who went to English speaking schools in former British colonies. But today? There is a change, right?
Entertainment is such a successful industry because we have made real life so stressful that people need to forget it at least for a little while in order to be able to cope with it again the next day. But in that case, if to become forgetful is the objective, then entertainment has to achieve it and can’t be anything that is thoughtful in nature. Consequently people have little or no time or inclination to think about their lives, where they are taking them, what may be other options available to them and so on. People just want to forget their lives, their cares, their worries and get themselves lost in a world of make-believe. We live in a cycle of continuous transactional pressure with interludes of deliberately induced forgetfulness.
What are the intellectual conceptual tools we need to get out of this morass that we find ourselves in?
I believe that in such a situation there are two very important cognitive tools that are essential to acquire, if one wants to escape the negative stress the environment produces and if one wants to make sense of what is going on.
And they are:
  1. Put the present in perspective and see a pathway ahead
  2. Conceptualise a strategy and a roadmap to implement it
Perspective is the single most important tool that I believe we need to equip ourselves with, today. Perspective is the ability to hold two pictures simultaneously in your mind: Where you are now and where you want to be.
Imagine yourself lost in a desert. A land characterised by similarity, constancy, lack of significant topography. A flat plain, stretching away on all sides as far as you can see. In such a situation the most common thing that happens to people who keep walking searching for the right path  is that without realising it, they walk in circles and obviously never reach anywhere. The only way to get out of such a potentially lethal situation is to find a high place, a rocky outcrop, a lone tree, a hillock; climb on top of it and then try to see where the way out lies. This is my description of perspective: to be able to hold two pictures in the mind simultaneously. If you think about this, it is impossible to give anyone directions to reach anywhere unless you know where they are at that point in time. All directions can only be given with reference to a starting point. So to be able to define where we are and to have clarity about where we want to be, is critical in all situations in life.
Perspective helps us to make sense of what is happening in the context of history; both our own personal history as well as a broader history of our social group, community, country and world. It helps to develop hypothesis about possible outcomes of current trends and practices. It helps us to prepare mentally as well as materially for possible outcomes. It helps us to take advantage of windows of opportunity. It helps us to prepare for possible dangers, some of which may well be very serious. Mankind gave up its reliance on raw instinct when it found perspective. Today we are dangerously in a situation where we have already lost our instinct and have no time or tools to see our lives in perspective. We are lost but don’t even realise it.
Perspective comes from studying history. Not for the stories of kings. But to ask ourselves what we can learn from it for ourselves today. Sadly history that is taught in our schools is not taught with this objective at all. We concentrate on events, with little or no focus on what led to the event or what we can learn from it that we can apply today. This must change. We need to study history for its lessons. Then we need to define ourselves as we are today in the context of what we read. For example in Indian history we have a period roughly from 1300 to 1900 where we were ruled by various invaders who were small in number but who by successfully exploiting our internal conflicts managed to get some of us to work against ourselves. That gave them the ruling authority and they were the kings. Divide and rule was the golden principle. We learnt it but didn’t learn how to defend ourselves against it. 
Proof? Since 1947 we in India have been independent but because we don’t seem to have learnt the lessons of history, we are still being exploited in precisely the same ways, by vested interests within ourselves acting as agents for outsiders. And we continue to pay the price. Surely 600 years is time enough to learn, isn’t it? Or it should be.
The second cognitive tool that we need is to be able to conceptualise solutions. This is a little more complex as it needs two related processes:

1.       Recollecting data from the past
2.       Conceptualise the way forward

Recollecting data from the past
Facing facts is never easy. As they say, ‘Not everything that is faced can be changed but nothing can be changed unless it is faced.’  This stage – facing of facts – is the foundation of the whole exercise of making sense of our own past. A method I teach is to draw a story board of your life in pictures. Start from your earliest childhood memory and work along to the present. Draw all that you can remember. Both the happy and the sad stories. Try not to write any words. Draw only pictures. This accesses your right brain spatial recognition process and enables you to see patterns in your drawing.
Once you have completed the drawing then ask yourself, ‘What is the pattern that I am seeing in this? What is the lesson for me today?’ While doing this, try to identify the thresholds in your life from the drawing. What were the critical incidents where you took decisions that changed the course of your life? Especially what were the decisions that you took which went against conventional wisdom and accepted practice of the time? How did these work out for you? What were the lessons you learnt? Feel free now to make notes as you go from picture to picture. What you are writing is not a description of the picture but the lesson you learnt at each stage in your life.
The key in this entire exercise is frankness. Brutal frankness with yourself. Be not an exporter of blame. Embrace responsibility. This is the most difficult part for many of us. We have learnt to take comfort in blaming others, circumstances, society, country or in the absence of anything, God and fate. To switch from this to accepting that we are the architects of our own destinies is not easy. But that is the essence of Islam – to make the effort and trust in Allah. That is the meaning of Tawakkul. Allah feeds the bird but not in the nest. So be brutally frank with yourself for it’s your own life.
There is no alternative to owning responsibility. If we don’t accept the responsibility for what went wrong, the power to repair it is not given to us. The beauty of accepting responsibility for our lives is that it puts the power to change destiny also in our hands. If I made it, I can remake it. And that is an enormously empowering thought. Think of all the other possibilities that may have existed at the time and what other options you had. Try to think of what might have been the result if you had chosen a route different from the one you chose. The idea of all this analysis is not to send you into a state of depression but to enhance your sense of achievement when you realise that the risks you took panned out for you and you struck gold. Sense of achievement is directly proportional to the magnitude of difficulty surmounted. And remember it is difficulty in the specific circumstances of your own life. Nobody else needs to be impressed with it. You don’t need to be dependent on anyone else’s approval. You know how difficult it was for you and that is enough.
Conceptualise the way forward
The value of history is in its lessons. To work with them one must convert them into action plans. At this stage it may be useful also to take some external advice from someone who can add his or her own perspective to your plans. The roadmap you create must mention the resources you need for each stage, the key people whose help you will need, your plan to get this help and resources and the time by which each stage is expected to be completed. The more rigorous you are with these details, the more beneficial will be your roadmap. Measurement is absolutely essential.
Without measurement nothing can be mapped or assessed. Timelines are what differentiate an intention from a mere wish. A timeline demonstrates that you are serious about what you intend to do. Timelines are critical.
Once you have done the analysis of your own life history and put your life in perspective, then you ask yourself, “What now? What are the opportunities available to me today? What are the opportunities that are likely to become available in the near or mid-term future? What do I need to do in order to prepare myself to take advantage of the opportunities?”

Freedom of Expression or Freedom to Blaspheme?


Freedom of expression must not be confused with freedom from the consequences of expression. Exercising freedom and abusing it are not the same. The latter forfeits the former. Just because we are free to express ourselves, it doesn’t free us from the responsibility for what we express. We are responsible for what we say and do and for the consequences thereof and so must consider carefully what we want to express. This is the basis of what we call civilized socially responsible behavior.
Once again we have an attack on the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) on whom it seems to be open season all the year round for people to take pot shots. And then cry foul when those who love him get upset. The rule seems to be, ‘I will say or do whatever I want but you must not get offended.’ Another rule, ‘Prove your maturity and culture by not being offended by insults.’
Seems strange indeed to us who are brought up in a culture where honor is not just important, it is everything. Respect for our signs and symbols is what our sense of honor is based on. And there is no symbol of our honor other than Allah Himself, that is more important than the Prophet (Peace be on him). So if someone insults him, it is very natural for a Muslim to feel sad and very mad. The claim of those who make these attacks is, ‘But we are not offended when someone blasphemes against Jesus or Moses. So how can you be offended when we insult Mohammed (Peace be on them all)?’ That is like saying, ‘I am not offended if you curse my parents and so you should also not be offended if I curse your parents.’
Our response is of course, ‘We have never cursed your parents in the first place. And secondly if you are not offended if someone curses your parents it is a sign that you are lacking in a sense of honor. That you are shameless. How can you demand that we also become shameless?’ For the record, find me a film made by a Muslim which abuses Jesus or Moses? You won’t find it because we revere them as prophets of Allah. So when Muslims have not done anything to abuse Christianity or Judaism, why should they be subjected to abuse from Christians and Jews (the people who allegedly made this ridiculous film) and be compelled to accept it?
I am not for a moment justifying or countenancing the violent protests and the unfortunate killing of innocent people. I have already spoken against that on several occasions since it happened. However I am writing this to request all responsible people to seriously wake up and start asking some pointed questions. One of which should be, ‘What was the need for this film in the first place? What is wrong with letting people believe whatever they want? What is wrong with leaving people alone with their religions – which is a basic human right?’
I was interested to read one of the comments of the learned viewers of the film who said, ‘In all their history, Muslims have contributed to the development of mankind less than a bunch of donkeys.’ What do you do with such ignorance? Another one demands that he will screen this film along with clips from other films which are insulting to Hindus, Christians and Jews and he demands that people must sit and watch all of them with equanimity. Isn’t that the strangest statement? For someone to make this insane demand is not considered insane. But when someone protests at this unprovoked attack on his honor, he is guilty of intolerance.

Why must people be forced to tolerate insults? Why must people be forced to sacrifice their honor just because those who have no honor want to exercise their fancy? Is this fair? Is anyone interested in justice anymore?
If we go by this logic then the right to safety and security must be balanced by the right to terrorize a population. The right to education must be balanced by the right to remain ignorant. The right to health must be balanced by the right to sickness. The right to marriage must be balanced by the right to rape and so on. Crazy, isn’t it? Just as crazy as the call that the right to freedom of religion must be balanced by the right to blaspheme any religion. These people want to impose the rule on us that if the followers of any religion want to practice their religion then they must be prepared to accept the fact that all that they hold holy and sacred will be blasphemed, insulted, degraded and desecrated by other people who don’t care about their feelings and they must accept this treatment without complaint.
Doesn’t that sound like a gross violation of human rights? It does, to me. Violence to human rights is not only physical violence. It is also violence that is psychological and mental. Ask any divorce lawyer who is suing on the basis of mental torture. This is an accepted principal in law. Freedom is defined as something that you are permitted to do as long as it does not violate someone else’s freedom; does not hurt someone else; does not harm anyone else. That is why the famous saying, “Your freedom ends where my nose begins.” If we define freedom as the unbridled right of someone to do whatever he or she wants irrespective of what harm this action or speech may do to someone else’s dignity, reputation, relationships or position, then we would have complete chaos and anarchy.
Defined in the way the makers of this ridiculous film and their supporters are demanding, freedom of speech must be rechristened ‘freedom to abuse’, ‘freedom to hurt’, ‘freedom to damage’, freedom to destroy’. This is a completely senseless argument and this behavior is not civilized at all. It is barbarism and oppression at its worst. So what is so different when it is done by film makers with the target being not one man or woman but an entire population? If anything it must make the crime humungous in magnitude. Like murder, which when it is perpetrated against an entire population becomes a holocaust and genocide. Ask the Jews who were the victims of this at the hands of Hitler. Of course that was before the West invented the term ‘collateral damage’. Otherwise they too, like the Iraqis and Palestinians, would have been mere statistics rather than innocent people who suffered one of the worst man-made disasters in the history of mankind. Unfortunately it seems to be by no means the last.
Yet we are asked to accept this ridiculous argument that if we are practicing Christians then we must accept films that show Jesus as a fornicating rock star or his pictures holding a beer can in one hand and a cigarette in another. If we are practicing Hindus then we must accept the pictures of the gods we worship, on toilet seats. And if we are practicing Muslims then we must accept the most obviously hatred filled images of the one person who we hold the most holy, Mohammad, the Messenger of Allah (Peace be on him). And all of us, Muslims, Christians, Hindus and others who have not been targeted yet are told that we have to accept someone’s ‘right’ to indulge his perversion at our expense. And if we dare to protest, then we will be labeled uncivilized, terrorists and anti-human.
In this version of civilization, it is civilized behavior to insult a religion. It is uncivilized behavior to protest against that insult. Does this make sense to you? It doesn’t to me. But it seems to make sense to a small minority (my assumption) of people who are seeking to impose their warped sense of values on the rest of the world. The question is what should be our reaction? Ideally I would love to ignore this thing entirely. But I’m afraid that it may only make such people bolder and eventually we will get to a point where we can’t ignore it anymore and then the reactions are more destructive.
In my view it is important for people of all religions to come together and stand together to ensure that freedom of worship and freedom of expression is ensured for everyone. And that this is done with an understanding of responsibility for expression. There can be no freedom of worship or expression when some people insult and abuse what someone else worships or reveres. Insulting someone personally is not accepted as a freedom in any civilized society. If someone did that they would become liable for legal action and punishment. So how can it be accepted to insult someone or something that an individual worships or considers holy?
Will someone explain this insanity to me please??

Tyranny of the Few


Headlines scream out at you: ’80 killed in terrorist attack on two Pakistani mosques.’  ‘Lal Masjid threatens to give the call for jihad.’ ‘Clash with security forces leaves 16 students dead.’ And all this accompanied by pictures of women in burqas wielding lathis longer than themselves. Talk of women power!!  Another one: ‘Flaming jeep drives into Glasgow airport.’ (No, it was not Lucifer trying to catch a flight either). ‘Doctor from Bangalore was the driver.’  Malala Yusufzai is shot because she wants to educate women. Shot by people who claim to be the representatives of Islam and Muslims. So let me begin by saying that I am Muslim and they don’t represent me. Nobody who can shoot a 14 year old girl represents me. Nobody who makes war on women and children represents me. Islam doesn’t teach anyone to shoot people whose ideas we don’t agree with. So if that is their Islam, then I am not from their religion. I hope that is clear enough as far as my stance goes.

What’s the common thread in these and many other such headlines? The names of the actors are all Muslim. And the pressure mounts on all of us – normal, harmless, garden-variety Muslims – to explain what is going on in the name of Islam. I know I am treading on very unsafe ground when I am writing this. I have no illusions about the possible threat to my own popularity and esteem, in which I am held for no fault of mine. In the strange world we live in, we Muslims and our Islam seems to be defined either by the strident discordant cries of people like the Imaam of Lal Masjid or the bleating of the likes of Salman Rushdie, Tasleema Nasreen, Irshad Manji and Hirsi Ali. Both these groups seek to foist their version of Islam on the rest of us. I believe the time has come for us, people who are practicing Muslims, proud of our great religion and culture, obedient to AllahY, conscious of our accountability to him, with no intention of changing Islam or its Shari’ah in any way whatsoever; to stand up and say, “Do what you want but leave Islam out of it. You don’t represent us. You are not our leaders. We don’t follow you.”
We Muslims ourselves are in a state of denial. The usual standard answer that we get when we mention the different acts of violence allegedly perpetrated by Muslims is that actually these have been done by or orchestrated by agencies of the enemies of Islam. Or we point a finger at America and Europe who have done worse in terms of slaughtering innocents and continue shamelessly while preaching peace to the world. Their leaders have no shame. I agree. But we forget two important matters when we make those statements.
1.    Those leaders are not Muslim. They are not our role models. They are not our benchmarks. We don’t follow them. They don’t have the Book of AllahY. They don’t claim to follow Muhammadr, the Messenger of AllahY. So what they do or don’t do has no relevance to what we do or don’t do.
2.    Two wrongs don’t make a right. Just because Madeleine Albright said on TV that the killing of Iraqi children was worth it – in terms of the American invasion of Iraq, it doesn’t give the Taliban the right to shoot Malala Yusufzai. At least the Americans do it to others. We do it to our own.
We have become used to blaming the West, our cousins, so-called ‘International Agencies’ or who-have-you for whatever happens that involves Muslims. That is a classic victim stance, the stance of losers and slaves everywhere. Export the blame in the false belief that it releases you from the responsibility of your actions or their consequences. It doesn’t. We are responsible before AllahY for what we do and our actions have consequences in this world and the Hereafter. Make no mistake O! Muslims. This is what your religion teaches you.  What helps the proponents of this victim stance is the fact that there have been incidents in the past where it has been proved that one or more of these agencies did in fact have a hand in either staging an act of violence and laying it at the door of Muslims who had nothing to do with it; or of aiding and abetting Muslims in committing hara-kiri of one kind or another. However the uncomfortable fact remains that there are many incidents that have happened and continue to happen that are entirely the effort of Muslims themselves. Call them misguided. Call them ignorant. Call them extremist. Call them what you will. Which Western agency pulled the trigger on Malala Yusufzai?
So what is the solution?
In my view the solution lies in the amazingly fortunate situation the Muslim Ummah finds itself of being in the eye of the world, provided that we can get our act together and act proactively in a coherent, sensible, creative and positive manner. Potentially Muslims today have access to the world media, any channel, and any country, free of cost. Anything that has an Islamic bent attracts the cameras and the world watches. Whose fault is it that almost all of it is negative? If our people drive flaming jeeps into airports; that is what will be shown. If they shoot a 14 year old girl because they don’t agree with her ideas, that is what will be shown. If they kill innocent people because someone somewhere made a film that is disparaging about Rasoolullahr, that is what will be shown. If they hole up inside a masjid or madrassa keeping women and children hostage, that is what will be shown. If they shoot up a masjid and kill worshippers that is what will hit the headlines. Propaganda is created and propagandists thrive in a situation where their victims readily provide them with real data and events. And that is what we continue to do. Provide data which is then not reported for what it is – the insane actions of a few but is interpreted as ‘problems’ of Islam. Then it is not the few criminals who are indicted and punished but the Prophet of Islam (Peace be on him) who is implicated, maligned and mocked because of what his followers who claim to love him, choose to do. Will someone ask them, ‘If you love your Prophet so much how come your actions are so different from his?’
Think Tanks & Team work
I believe that the first step to change our situation is to get the minds of the Ummah together. I propose that Think Tanks be created at a local level in every place where Muslims live. These Think Tanks must comprise of a cross-section of Muslims from all walks of life – Ulama (Theologians), professionals, academics, business people, scientists, bankers, parents, men and women. People who participate in the Think Tanks must learn how to collaborate, dialogue, differ and deal with conflict. They must learn to disagree without being disagreeable. They must learn to focus on issues of common concern while agreeing to live with the differences. They must learn to put the interest of Islam and the Muslim Ummah above their own narrow partisan concerns. And they must learn to obey an Ameer (Leader). These local groups must network and come together at a country level and in time at a global level. There are many secular and religious organizations today who follow this model, very successfully. All it needs is sincerity and dedication. 
These Think Tanks must identify important emerging issues, deliberate on them, take expert advice and then create solutions for them from an Islamic perspective. These solutions must be innovative, attractive and powerful and with great media savvy, must be made public. Believe me, if we do the right thing, world media will be only too glad to give us air time free of cost. After all the Nobel Peace Prize went to Mohammad Younus of Grameen Bank fame with a battery of appearances on all the major media channels, with his Islamic identity clearly visible in every appearance. If you become news worthy, you become news. I believe that it is time for the thinking ones to wake up and start thinking so that they don’t allow the mindless to hijack their image and thereby draw suffering on their heads for no fault of their own. 
Lethargy in today’s world is a crime. Especially lethargy in a situation where our very existence is threatened. Let us remember that as long as we are seen as people who are addicted to violence neither we nor our religion are likely to be seen in a positive light. Whether this image is fact or not is immaterial. It is the dominant image today. And it is an image that must be debunked. Nobody likes to be with or to support murderers of innocent people. We don’t either. I know that the people who shoot up mosques or do other such brave deeds don’t first come to the likes of you and me to ask our permission or opinion. I know that people like you and me have never actually seen someone like the murderers who shot up the mosques in Pakistan. Or the brave ‘men’ who shot Malala Yousufzai. We don’t know who they are and we wouldn’t dream of supporting them in their Haraam (prohibited) actions. Islam has never permitted killing people at random, irrespective of their religious belief. However none of this will make the problem go away or keep us safe from its effects when it keeps recurring again and again. So we need to find solutions. And we need to get together and do it. The problems affect us the most and so we need to solve them. After all it is the one who is sick who needs to eat the medicine. Not anyone else.
When the time comes for the truth to be spoken, silence is culpable.
I believe that time has come.

Independence must be earned

Happy Independence Day to you.

Independence doesn’t just happen. It must be earned.

Let us reflect that real bondage is of the mind and spirit. Nelson Mandela for 27 years in the South African apartheid prison was actually free.

But today in India we have accepted the slavery of discrimination against each other, of corruption and of mutual hatred. It’s not the politicians who are corrupt. They are the visible symbols of our entire society which is corrupt and finds nothing wrong in being corrupt. What we accept as a defining feature of our identity, we will never fight against or try to change.

In our country to kill an Indian is a crime according to the IPC 302 – and it should be – but to kill a Dalit, an Adivasi, a Muslim, a Christian, a Sikh or a Hindu, is acceptable and is justified. So who is an Indian, if it is not the Dalit, or the Adivasi, or the Muslim, or the Christian, or the Sikh or the Hindu, we just killed? Because believe me, when it happens, we are all collectively culpable.

In our country it is a crime for a politician to take a bribe – and it should be – but it is acceptable for the industrialist and businessman to give speed money to a judge, to give a ‘gift’ to a politician, to contribute to political parties using unaccounted funds, and for each one of us to give small and large bribes to get our work done are all acceptable on the excuse…yeh Hindustan hai meray bhai!

Tho phir aap hi boliye ki yeh Hindustan abhi azaad hua ki nahin?

I remind myself that this nation will become free not when modern day Avatars and their media slaves try to create modern day mythology but when you and I and every Indian decides that he and she is a part of the problem and that if he or she wants a solution then he or she has to decide to become a part of the solution.

Denial is the first and surest sign of mental illness….of self delusion. But neither denial nor delusion can save us from destruction.

If we really want to celebrate Independence Day, let us decide to become truly independent and understand and accept that we will have to work for it. Not wait for someone else to come and free us from ourselves. 

Jai Hind.

Exit: Terminating Family Members

This is a big one. Some people are of the opinion that family members can’t be terminated under any but the most extreme circumstances like theft or doing something detrimental to the family. My view is that like performance bonuses, termination must also be linked to productivity. To allow the business to suffer losses because a family member is ineffective is to punish the whole family and all employees for the doings of one person. This is not only grossly unfair on everyone, but more importantly it vitiates the atmosphere of a results driven culture that we are trying to create. By such a policy we are at once undermining all claims to fair-play, justice and merit based career progression. So people who don’t deliver must go; family or no family. Such people must not even be put in some other part of the business for the same reason – their presence will legitimize ineffective working. Also more than likely they will create their own politics, especially as they are family members which can lead to all sorts of undesirable results. When you decide to terminate, the best way is to do it as quickly and decisively as possible. A clean cut with a sharp knife is always better, cheaper and kinder. The individual remains a shareholder and part of the family. It is just that they no longer come to the office. As I have said earlier, owning a business and running a business are not the same.
Keeping the Business Family intact – 5 Key Structures

I have suggested 5 structures that are most beneficial in achieving our goal: Making the business process driven while keeping the family together.
For details of that please read my book, The Business of Family Business (Serene Woods Publications) available in India on Flipkart and internationally on www.amazon.com