55 LESSONS OF 55 YEARS

Never try to change your spouse

There are two kinds of correctional institutions. One is called prison. The other one is, but is called marriage. One has a specific term you must serve. The other one is for life. In one you get paid to be there. In the other, you pay to be there. Both specialize in...

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Negative or positive, the choice is ours

Negative people look for things to complain about and find them. Positive people look for things to be grateful for and find them. Make your choiceI’m sure you’ve heard this before that every day we wake up, we have a choice. We can choose to see the day as...

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Differentiate

There’s no such thing as too much when it comes to setting life goals.Nobody knows the best that he can do. Limits are only in the mind.Differentiate on the basis of the only thing which counts — Quality. Be the best in the world at what you do. Forget everything...

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Do what you can

I will not allow, what is not in my control, to prevent me from doing what is, in my control.This is my motto in life by which I have lived all my life. I always try to focus on what I can do no matter whatever else I can’t do. I do that because of one reality that is...

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Take tough decisions

Problems need solutions, not complaints or endless analyses.We need solutions, not tedious explanations.In all the years that I have been advising companies about achieving remarkable results, especially family businesses, one thing is very clear. Top management’s...

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Tomorrow also has only 24 hours

Good intentions are not a substitute for systematic action. Neither is enthusiasm a substitute for discipline. Noise is different from musicWe all have the same 24 hours and no, tomorrow won’t have more. All tomorrows have only 24 hours. ‘Tomorrow I’ll have...

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Focus on contribution – not entitlement

Add value first. Entitlement will follow. Entitlement goes with the territory. Contribution defines the territoryBecause entitlement is directly proportional to contribution. Entitlement is the result of contribution. If you want more ‘entitlement’,...

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Use things, not people; Value people, not things

Invest in people, not thingsRight people add value. Possessions add cost, not value and always depreciateSurround yourself with great people and value them. Tell them, show them, and do it often. Valuing is not simply patting backs or giving blue ribbons or bonus...

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Invest, invest, invest

Forget sacrifice, think investmentAll sacrifice ends, but investment yields foreverInvest in yourself, in your learning. Knowledge is the key to success. But only if applied.Knowledge applied thoughtfully yields wisdom. The two are not the same. So focus on your...

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Forget about money

Money measures nothing except greed. When money becomes the objective, misery is the return. Service is the goal, the result of which is prosperity.Money is an effect, a result. What do I mean? Well, you see, we live in a world of cause and effect. The...

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Value friendships

Friends are not forever, but for as long as you live. And that is long enough, so choose wiselyBut first take the trouble to decide who is a good friend.1. A good friend is someone who tells you what you need to hear, not only what you want to    ...

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Complacency is death.

Invite the 'ghost competitor' and beat your own record. The 'ghost competitor' is a tool that great athletes use to improve their own standards of performance. If you are Usain Bolt, you are already the fastest man on the planet. That you are actually slightly...

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The problem with the C- Word

One of the things that I have been very fond of, is trekking, especially climbing mountains. I have done a good bit of that in the Western Ghats in Southern India, climbing on one occasion through thick forest straight up the side of the mountain, 4500 feet. I went up...

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Self-assessment is your commitment to yourself

The mirror can only reflect what is in front of it.It is for me to decide what to do about itPerformance Appraisals are things that are done in organizations and most people don’t like them. Except the winners, that is. Winners like to ‘show off.’ I mean that in a...

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Structure and Focus

Balance passion and system - Passion without system burns out.System without passion creates bureaucracy. But together they can change the worldAll the passion in the world will get you nowhere if you don’t create a step by step strategy to achieve your goals and...

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DIFFERENTIATE!!

There's no such thing as too much when it comes to setting life goals. Nobody knows the best that he can do. Limits are only in the mind.Differentiate on the basis of the only thing which counts – Quality. Be the best in the world at what you do. Forget...

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If it can’t make you cry, it can’t make you work

I know only one way to live and that is to live passionately. When you live passionately, you are alive, happy and have no stress. You can work hours that leave others exhausted. You don’t need holidays because your whole life is a holiday and you actually get...

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Life is Math

Life is an equation. You control only one side, but with that you can affect the outcome. Most of us look at the other side that we don’t control and feel helpless. We forget that it is the outcome that we should focus on and see what number we need to write on...

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Remember banking

Thoughtfulness is a factor of doing the unnecessary.Always do the unnecessary act of kindnessThis is a take on the previous one for the city boys.Life is a bank account. How much you can draw out depends on what you put in. You put it in when you don’t need it. So...

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Focus on Giving

The world loves ‘givers’ and hates ‘takers’.Now this is not just some ‘nice to do’ thing. Think farming. What do you do if you want a great harvest? Plant lots of good seed. What happens if you eat up the seed? No harvest. Life is farming.Imagine that you walked into...

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